This is going to be a rant, so forgive me if this will be a long-winded read.
Now, something that annoys me is how people always seem to insult or belittle themselves based on their assumption that they're ugly. It's something that is very common these days and that tends to be of all ages. Just think of all the make-up and lotions that are being sold. It's annoys me because I'm an argumentative prick and I like to discuss these topics. So I guess this will be a rant as well as a combination of arguments as to why people should not be bothered by being "ugly".
One of the most common arguments that others and myself have presented is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It's possible that your classmates in school have told you that you're ugly. It's possible you yourself think that is the case, though I presume that's more a matter of psychological issues than neutral perception. However, that doesn't mean everyone will think you are ugly, nor does it even mean that those brats in school mean that. Keep in mind that people lie and that there are assholes out there who want to hurt you. Don't always immediately believe whatever you hear.
Granted, it goes both ways. Don't always believe the people who call you beautiful as well. Always question what the intention is of the people calling you beautiful or ugly. If it's genuine and constructive, listen to it. If it is to hurt you, ignore it.
Example of genuine remarks:
- God, your teeth look awful. You really should start brushing them. It's healthy for you to do so.
- God, but you look beautiful without make-up. You really don't have to use that in order to be beautiful.
These are examples of which calling someone beautiful or ugly is done as advice. So always look at the intention of the message, because that can be more important than the message itself.
Something I would like to touch on some more is whenever people consider themselves ugly. Why? What reasons do you have that make you think you're ugly?
Don't look at what other people tell you, but rather look at logical (and biological) arguments that could make you feel ugly or beautiful. I really think people need to stop listening to others and that they need to start thinking for themselves on this. Conformism isn't always a good thing. In fact, I daresay that a lot of conformism, especially when it's a bunch of teenage brats in school who are going through their identity crisis, is harmful to today's society and to your mental psyche as a whole. If you really think you're ugly, think about why. Don't blindly accept anything.
But okay, let's assume that you are indeed ugly. let's assume that scientific study has concluded that you are indeed ugly and that there's nothing you can do to change that. Then what? Are you going to be bothered by it? Are you going to complain it for the rest of you life? Are you going to snap at others when they make light-hearted jokes at it? That seems like a horrible waste of time to me. Wouldn't it then be better to focus on other things, things you are good at and that you can cultivate your skill in? Looking at all your flaws is good so that you can learn from them, but when they draw you in a vicious cycle I'd say it's time for you to start evaluating yourself and look at the positive things. Always question what you think, because things that turn out to be terrible can be small things if you devote some time thinking about it.
If you're noticing a recurring trend here it's that I implore you to think about everything you hear. That doesn't go for just physical appearances, though I do believe that applying some more critical thinking to appearances could do wonders for this society as a whole. Maybe then we won't be so obsessed with trying to look better than we are and focus more on things I find worthy of exploring: personality, academic purposes, art,...
You know, the things that make a human being a human being, not the flesh on them... >.>
Anyway, thank you for reading this and I hope you have a good day.
Listening to: The sounds of the world.
Reading: The words of men.
Watching: The images before my eyes.
Playing: with questions